Male Sex Abuse Survivor Websites

  Male Survivor web sites  Here is an excellent list of organizations that comes from MaleSurvivor.org, a group committed to preventing, healing, and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men through support, treatment, research, education, advocacy, and activism. 1in6 – offers a wealth of......

Transferring Frequent Flyer Miles to The Podcast

I really want to start recording people outside of America but need financial help to make it happen.   Transferring frequent flyer miles would be a big, big help as airfare is pretty expensive. There are three major airline alliances I belong to that allow......

Inside the Hearts, Bodies and Minds of Sexual Trauma Survivors

If you want to understand what survivors think and feel every day, watch this video.  It’s text excerpts from the anonymously taken survey “Struggle in a Sentence”.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5BkH3moFgjQ&feature=youtu.be&a...

High-Fiving Male Sex Abuse Victims

We’ve all seen the familiar story.  Hot teacher and young teenage male student.  One newspaper  used the word “romp” to describe a 24 year-old woman and a 16 year-old boy. I click on the links and read the stories even though I know the reader......

Scar Tissue by Paul Gilmartin

Scar Tissue   I’m sitting here at my favorite coffee place wondering why I didn’t wear looser pants.  My junk is swollen.  Not with pleasure; with bruising and stitches and a Band-Aid. I had a vasectomy yesterday and like many of the twelve operations I’ve......

Come See Paul Speak

March 25th at Lassen Community College is Susanville, CA.  There will be a screening of the California PBS documentary “A New State of Mind” followed by some speakers, one of whom will be Paul.   The event is from 5:30-8:30.  Admission is free and reservations......

I Didn’t Want to Take Psych Meds But I Tried Them: An email from Kimberly

About an hour in to your episode with Jennifer Tracy, you started talking about medication and some people’s aversion to it. You both shared your views on using meds and I figured I could share my experience as someone who struggled with taking them. My......

How Sexual Abuse Affected My Mind: An Email from Katie M.

So my story is kind of complicated (as if others aren’t).  When I was about 6 years old, I was continually molested by my brothers friend over the course of a month or so while my brother would be at band practice in our basement.......

I’m Not Strong Enough: Thoughts From An Overwhelmed Mother

Paul, Sleep is a challenge lately. Life is…hard lately. Not bad, quite good in some ways, but hard and exhausting. A long while back you said something that’s stuck with me…how the word “enough” can be so damaging. “Not good enough, not cool enough, not......

Cutting Contact With Her Mom: An email from Barbara in NC

Hi Paul- I have tried to start this letter to you so many times (and here I go again!), but listening to what you said about missing your mom on a recent show finally got me to do it. I don’t think anyone that has......

Weird Phobias email

The following is an email correspondence between myself and “Marie”, a listener who messaged me via Facebook.   She gave me her permission to post this. Marie Please have a show about weird phobias. I have a fear of answering the telephone  along with a......

Email of the Day: Listener Ryan on coping with his trauma

Paul   I am 40 yrs old. My last memory of feeling normal was at about age 5. That day a neighbor asked me if i wanted to come see his train set, and i naturally obliged. Not until age 26 did i start to......

7 Little Ways to Help a Person with Depression: A Guest Blog by Cindy Wolf

Seven Little Ways to Help a Person with Depression These seven little ways to help a person with depression come directly from my life.  This is not an extensive list.  It is just some things that stand out to me.  Things that mean a lot......

I Thought My Turn-Ons Made Me a Monster: Nicole S.

My husband doesn’t always want to do what I want him to do, and I’m not talking about the dishes or laundry. I can’t really blame him. He’s a good person.  He doesn’t want to hurt me. That’s the problem.  I want to be hurt.......

Trypophobia: WTF is it? A Guest Blog by Lue

Trypophobia is a condition I’ve had since I can remember. In a nutshell it is a nervous, flesh crawling response to particular patterns and textures, typically organic and often involving small holes. It’s especially bad when associated with skin. It’s a known condition (although obviously......

Witness PTSD : Guest Blog by Michelle H.

*Disclaimer: There are some parts to my story that are pretty out there, new agey, woo-woo if you will. Some may call BS, perhaps I would have called it that at a time in my life too. But it is my truth and resonates with......

My Brain Helped Me As a Little Girl By Leaving My Body: Guest Blog by Ashley B.

This is a typical night when I was a little girl. I am describing the night backwards chronologically. Dissociating distorts a sense of time and so often people who experience it find themselves going backwards chronologically, not only in their mind but sometimes temporarily in......

The Negative Voice in My Head: Guest Blog by Carly C.

Occasionally when I’m writing, I run into a mental roadblock. It starts innocently enough: what’s the point here, why am I writing this, what do I want the reader to gain from this? This is common for writers or creators of any type, and it’s......

Most Popular Eps of 2014

Most popular Eps of 2014 #1 Todd Glass #2 Lauren Ashley Bishop #3 NHL Goalie Clint Malarchuk #4 Low Self-Esteem with Guy Winch PhD #5 Mick Betancourt #6 Loneliness with Guy Winch PhD #7 Chris Gethard #8 Matt Oswalt #9 Rumination with Guy Winch PhD......

Favorite Episodes of 2013 as Voted By Listeners

Top Listener-Voted Eps of 2013 1. Maria Bamford 2. Emily Gordon 3.David Hirohama: Counseling Sexual Predators 4. CPS Worker Ray 5. Aisha Tyler live at LA Podfest 6. Elizabeth Laime 7. Kulap Vilaysack Returns 8. Chemda 9. Sara Benincasa 10. Lynn Chen To view the......

Favorite Episodes of 2012 as Voted By Listeners

Top Listener-Voted Eps of 2012 1. Dr. Jessica Zucker #1 2. Dr. Jessica Zucker #2 3. Chris Hardwick 4. Rob Delaney 5. Nadereh Fanaeian 6. Kerri Kenney-Silver 7. Steve Agee 8. Dave Holmes 9. Laurie Kilmartin 10. Policeman Andy...

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Listeners Voted Their Ten Favorite Episodes of 2011

Check out the listener-voted Top 10 Favorite Episodes of 2011! 1. Teresa Strasser 2. Adam Carolla 3. Paul F. Tompkins 4. Marc Maron 5. Kulap Vilaysack 6. Eddie Pepitone 7. Ex-Con “Murph” 8. Karma 9. Beth Littleford 10. Jimmy Pardo...

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