I think this article highlights the difficulty boys have in getting the help they need after having been assaulted or violated by adult women. People assume an erection means a green light. It doesn’t. Many female sex abuse victims become aroused and even orgasm during crimes against them, but it doesn’t mean it’s okay. If anything, these boys and girls need additional care because of the confusion that exists. Their bodies responded one way and their souls another way. Most people don’t get this.
Our bodies repair themselves but our souls usually need help from others.
No matter how a body responds, when a child is tricked, seduced or coerced into a sexual situation by an adult or a much older young adult a scar is left because deep down the child knows they were objectified and used – made to feel small and powerless which is what the abuser is seeking from the sex. It is not an act of sharing, it is an act of taking.
If they remain silent, the victims may not be able to articulate the wound consciously for years, if ever, but something has been changed inside them that can’t be buried. Unfortunately most do exactly that and that pain expresses itself in misdirected anger, fear of trust or intimacy, feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, panic, extreme promiscuity or sexual withdrawal, depression and thoughts of suicide.
So if you know someone who has been through his, think about this before you high five him.