by ocadhla » July 3rd, 2012, 11:47 pm
Interesting idea inmymind... Although from personal experience, I disagree. I was a big metal fan growing up but my tastes include many other things as shown in my first post. I listened to mostly happy, indie sort of stuff when I was depressed. Only when I started to recover did I delve back into some of my old favorites like Cradle of Filth and the Black Dahlia Murder.
I'm really trying not to preach or sound like I know it all. When I was/(still might be, and definitely struggle with) depressed, it wasn't the ever-present sadness that got to me. It was the feeling that I wasn't really alive. Something about the raw anger and (if you actually spend time analyzing it) indignation in metal music and the like, makes me feel alive and important; makes me feel like there's something left worth fighting for, even if its just another fucking day in this world.
I believe there's a time and place for all types of music, and that it differs for every person. To me, there's no sense listening to happier music if you're depressed in order to feel better. In reality, you won't be able to relate to it and that will, in turn, make you feel worse. Sometimes you just need that voice to tell you that you aren't the only one who feels like a fucked up, worthless piece of shit that the world would be better off without. Some of the most important/influential people in the world's history have felt this way and it is a completely natural and human way to feel.
I do agree with you, however, that as depressives, we are drawn to songs that channel the same frequency that our souls seem to sing. Although, again from my own experience, this is beneficial and can help to stave off the darkest of our days. Ignoring or avoiding the dark sides of humanity is no cure for them, in fact, oftentimes, facing them is the only way to heal.
I'm currently writing a cooking book for depressives entitled "Stewing in your own juices".