The Narcissistic Mother

[BecomingKind]

http://www.psychforums.com/narcissistic-personality/topic48207.html

Uncanny.

[SmartCookie]

The book "Will I Ever Be Good Enough" by Dr. Karyl McBridge focuses specifically on the experience of daughters of narcissistic mothers. Site: http://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/

While I had identified many of the things I found problematic about my mother, it wasn't until reading this book that I could really put my finger on precisely what was happening, and I am now in the process of working through the section of the book on accepting my mother's limitations and moving on. May be helpful for others who come to the same realization.

[CrazyHorse]

I've been really angry at my mother lately. Just thought I'd share. Thank you for your post.

[SmartCookie]

CrazyHorse,

Strength to you in working through it and taking care of yourself. After a lot (!!!) of crying and raging, I took the radical-for-me step of telling my mom I needed to not see her for a little while. Rather than screaming or being insistent on her need to see me, as I feared she would, she quietly accepted it, for which I was grateful.

That was about 3 weeks ago and the space has been very productive. While it doesn't lessen the pain it helps me to remember that my expectations and desires from my mother are in some cases valid, but I also need to appropriately grieve the reality that I didn't and never will get the mother I deserve, and make a healthy situationfor myself that is rooted in accepting that truth.

May not apply for your situation but I thought it might be helpful.

SC