Rosie wrote:I want to find love, but perhaps I need to complete my therapy before I can do that...
Love is scary. I have been together with my wife for 11 years, and nobody can hurt you as much as the one you love, and it is very easy to hurt the one who loves you. The terror of thinking you will lose it all is even worse than rejection.
(Personally, I think commitment is more important than love, because society teaches us to confuse love with infatuation.)
I would just try to find someone for an interesting and fun month and a half, take a break, then do it again. Love is too scary without first building a reservoir of strength.
But definitely don't put off low-risk, light romance until you "complete" your therapy, because you will be constantly improving yourself - that self-loving work is never done. You are ready now to practice recasting supposed "rejection" into something about the other person, not something about your worth has a human being. If you see the truth that you are not worth of rejection, then the actions of other cannot cut you so deep.
If you hate your weaknesses, then you must love your strengths. Your strengths are evident in your intelligence and compassion in the responses you write here. Please take care, it is wonderful to read your posts again on the message board!